Since your culture differs greatly from that of Chinese women there are many things you can do that mess up your chances with dating Chinese women. Research shows that many Chinese ladies have had several bad experiences with foreign men who don’t know how to approach them. The guys are said to come off rude, creepy or even racist at times. You want to avoid these situations and the best way to do that is to learn what you should and shouldn’t do.
1. DON’T: Guess their ethnicity.
Just because a woman looks East Asian doesn’t make them automatically Chinese. Don’t assume these things because it is racist. Trying too hard and sending “Ni hao!” as a greeting to every Asian looking woman is just inappropriate.
DO: Simply say hello.
Some people think that this is a very boring way to begin a conversation. Instead they would like to say something more colorful like mentioned in the previous point. What these ladies actually appreciate is this normal approach. Just say “Hi, my name is ____ and I really like your profile.”
2. DON’T: Share the Chinese experiences that you’ve had.
This sounds like a great idea – you can talk about the Chinese restaurant you’ve been to and so on. Think about it – a random Chinese restaurant in New York isn’t exactly like a real Chinese restaurant. Also don’t bring up your Asian friends. What would you think if she said, “Oh, did I tell you about my white friend Tasha?” Just leave it.
3. DON’T: Bring up stereotypes.
There are too many stereotypes attributed to these ladies. Don’t be one of those guys. Forget what you have heard about eating dog food, the women being submissive, the women all being slender and so on. Just be with her, enjoy your date and you will get to know what she is about.
DO: Get to know her.
You can show genuine interest in her as a person if you just ask her questions about her hobbies, interests and ambitions in life. It shows that you are interested in her as a person and not in some strange fantasy like lots of guys do.
Chinese women are different in many ways. It is a challenge to get to know them better but getting there is definitely worth it. The point is that we are all human beings and have unique characteristics. It is better to be yourself with these ladies and look beyond all stereotypes that you have become aware of.