I was depressed about it for a few years, but I think I’m happy with my life now. Maybe we’re better off childless? How do I start this conversation?
I’m at a loss: I’m unable to get pregnant. I have a loving partner who is my best friend. We have been trying for more than 10 years to have a child, but it has never happened. Although I was depressed about this for a few years, I’ve come to accept it. We talk of adopting or fostering, but we don’t move forward with it. I’ve start to realise that I’m happy with my life and who and where I am. The problem is, I’m not sure if he is. We’ve talked about kids at length and while it seems he would like them, he’s not exactly in a hurry. In fact, he seems somewhat satisfied with how things are, too. We’re in our 40s, so time is running out. So, how do I approach this subject? Maybe we’re just better off childless? Although I thought I longed for a child, I’m not sure that’s what I want any more. How do I start this conversation?
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