Women across the world look for certain qualities in a man before they accept a marriage proposal. Even if you have convinced a Ukrainian woman to marry you, there are extra expectations and hurdles to be overcome. It is best to take your time and only propose to your Ukrainian lady when you are sure that you can both overcome the special difficulties that come with a cross-cultural marriage.
Women everywhere want to marry a man who is kind. One of the reasons that Ukrainian women want to marry a foreigner is that Ukrainian men often drink, spend long hours outside the home partying and contribute little to family life. Demonstrate to your Ukrainian lady that you are committed to spending time with her and taking care of her needs. Ukrainian ladies do tend to be more traditional than their sisters in America or Western Europe, but this doesn’t mean that they are seeking a totally domineering husband. Even if a Ukrainian woman is content to be a homemaker rather than pursuing a career, she still wants her marriage to be a partnership.
Therefore, the best way to convince a Ukrainian woman to marry you is through your actions. Show respect and kindness. Listen to her opinions. Demonstrate that you understand that marriage is a partnership, even if men and women play different roles.
Mutual Goals and Expectations
Your Ukrainian lady will be giving up a lot when she marries you and moves to your home country. She will be leaving behind the support mechanisms of her family and friends. For at least a year, she may face some communication difficulties, even if her English or other language skills are good. You therefore need to convince her that you both have similar ideals and expectations from marriage.
Be sure that you are honest from the start about your expectations. If you want to have children and believe that your wife should take care of the home, let her know this. This gives her a chance to decide if she has the same desires as you. If you like your women to be more independent and contribute to the household finances, she deserves to know this too. Once a woman feels comfortable about your honesty and believes that you both have the same goals in life, she will be more confident to accept your marriage proposal and move to a strange country.
Respect For Her Family
In many ways the Ukraine is still quite traditional. Even though it isn’t an expectation, it would be very polite for you to talk to your intended bride’s father about your intentions. This will greatly impress a lady as it shows how serious you are. In addition, the blessing of her family will be very important to a woman who is moving far away from home.
In future, you will be returning to the Ukraine to visit your wife’s family. All marriages benefit when there are friendly relationships with extended family. As family life is so important to Ukrainian women, this is definitely the case.
Show your Ukrainian lady that you are serious by gaining her family’s blessing. She is far more likely to accept.
The Significance of the Proposal
In many countries, we are used to having a long engagement after a proposal. Traditionally in the Ukraine, a proposal is quickly followed by marriage. The ring you give when you propose will be a wedding ring. Engagement rings are still not very common in the Ukraine.
Make sure that your lady knows that you appreciate the significance of the proposal. Let her know that you intend to marry her as soon as possible.
If you follow this advice, your Ukrainian lady should agree to marry you. Remember that your actions, expectations and signs of respect are just as important as an expensive ring and creative setting for the proposal.
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