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Table manners can vary greatly from one country to the next. There is a massive difference in what is rude in the West and East. Japan is a nation with a very rich history and a culture so their dining etiquette is something very different from what you are used to. If you are interested in dating Japanese women, then you are definitely expected to know the code of manners. This article lists tips for learning Japanese dining etiquette.


AsianDate lady FengyingAs you probably know, you will not find the variety of forks you are used to in Japanese dining culture and instead there are chopsticks and the many rules that revolve around them. Actually a big chunk of their etiquette revolves around chopstick use. In order to make things easier for you you need to learn the following rules. The first of them being that you should never point chopsticks towards anything. Don’t stick of stab them in food and limit their use to just picking up food and placing it in your mouth.

For reference, here is a specific list:

Don’t point chopsticks at anyone.
Don’t point it at food.
No waving over food.
No rubbing them together, no playing with them.
No sucking on them. Even if the sauce is that delicious.
Don’t use them like forks and stab your food.
Do not stick them upright in rice (like incense).
If you want to pass food, do it by placing the morsel on a plate and then pass the plate. No chopstick to chopstick action.

In most Japanese food establishments, you are provided with either a hot or cold wet towel when you are seated. They are used to “wash” your hands so make sure you limit their use to cleaning your hands. They are not to be used on your face or anywhere else. Just clean your hands. Fold the towel neatly and set it aside. It will be collected before you are served food.

Dipping sauces and condiments

If you want to engage in the Japanese dating scene, there is research that needs to be done. It should inform you that Japanese people frown upon wasting resources and anything excessive. The same applies to eating. Soy sauce is very common on almost any dining table in Japan. But you must avoid the urge to put any of it on your plate or rice. Instead, it is to be placed in a small dipping bowl. Dip your food in it once. Just once. Once used up it can always be refilled.

Wasabi is used in small amounts only. When you eat sushi, the dish itself has wasabi in it and putting too much of it in your sauce may offend the chef. Sashimi is to be used sparingly because it may overpower other flavours.